So, I was off at the INTP tribe reading their musings about relationships and feelings.
Its so cute to see them try and rationalize, and understand the logic behind emotions.
Anyways, INTPs intellectually stimulate me and their quirks amuse me.

So, reading the thread about their past relationships and what types fit best with them, I came across this comment by someone saying that they were in a relationship with an INFP and that person was very "manipulative" (and that it was hell... blah blah blah).

My first reaction was "Ouch".
On further analysis, I feel this could be true.

I think I have a good understanding of my own feelings, and sometimes I understand the feelings of others (or believe i do), and hence I can gauge what their emotional response(s) would be to my emotions.
So I can suppress emotions or express them in order to elicit the appropriate response from them.

For example, if I need to be emotionally strong instead of a sobbing queen, i can do that.
Is that being manipulative, or did I misunderstand it?

Does this emotional self-control ring true with others here?
Is this limited to an INFP-INTP interaction ? (where the INTP labels it "manipulative", as they understand it, or have you heard this from other types as well).
Is there a better word for this?