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Currently 37. This is the advice I would give my myself at age:
18 - There are over 18 dance clubs. Start dancing now instead of waiting 3 more years.
20 - Read Rich Dad, Poor Dad and Cash Flow Quadrant.
24 - Start 1st year of kungfu instead of doing 4th year of aikido. Start taking lindy lessons instead of east coast swing.
25 - Start putting money in an IRA now instead of waiting another 6 years. Pay off all credit cards on time no matter what because saving half a percent on your mortgage is a very big deal.
27 - Turn all paycheck over to wife and let her handle the finances. Start cash only budget now.
34 - Start adoption paperwork on 2nd daughter right away because the wait is going to be really, really, really, really long. Quit procrastination on the journal to your 1st daughter.
That's pretty much it. Just small advice that I would have understood back then that would have made a big difference in my life as I would know it today.
18 - There are over 18 dance clubs. Start dancing now instead of waiting 3 more years.
20 - Read Rich Dad, Poor Dad and Cash Flow Quadrant.
24 - Start 1st year of kungfu instead of doing 4th year of aikido. Start taking lindy lessons instead of east coast swing.
25 - Start putting money in an IRA now instead of waiting another 6 years. Pay off all credit cards on time no matter what because saving half a percent on your mortgage is a very big deal.
27 - Turn all paycheck over to wife and let her handle the finances. Start cash only budget now.
34 - Start adoption paperwork on 2nd daughter right away because the wait is going to be really, really, really, really long. Quit procrastination on the journal to your 1st daughter.
That's pretty much it. Just small advice that I would have understood back then that would have made a big difference in my life as I would know it today.
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Re: Advice you'd give to your younger self
Mon, August 20, 2007 - 6:07 PMThis is great Corin
The only suggestions I would give myself would be finish school, education is key and waitng til later only creates a bigger financial challenge
oh and Enjoy today dont worry about tomorrow.( I always worried and didnt enjoy enough)
thats it.
thanks!
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Re: Advice you'd give to your younger self
Mon, August 20, 2007 - 9:23 PMshouting, I'd tell myself: "STOP THINKING AND START DOING".
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Re: Advice you'd give to your younger self
Sat, September 1, 2007 - 6:40 PMAMEN! -
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Re: Advice you'd give to your younger self
Sun, September 2, 2007 - 8:31 PM"chill out. it all goes in cycles. get too hyped on a particular point along the way, and you'll burn out way to fast to enjoy the process.
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Re: Advice you'd give to your younger self
Sun, September 2, 2007 - 9:17 PMwhen i was a kid/ much younger, i'd love to be able to say to myself, "no, i'm not weird/ strange/ freaky."
it'd have saved me a whole lot of trouble, and boosted my self-esteem.
but hey, i feel very much like an ET now ( i'm well-disguised so more often than not, i go undetected :), even though i'm aware that only mainstream societies might perceive me as weird, and that i really am not.
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Re: Advice you'd give to your younger self
Sun, September 2, 2007 - 9:31 PMdont worry your just fine...
and this is not mainstream society......thank Goodness.
I thought infp = weird..kidding..but it sure did feel that way growing up.
Not anymore! ...well a little but the difference is It doesnt bother me anymore because I understand myself now. Yippers! -
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Re: Advice you'd give to your younger self
Sun, September 2, 2007 - 11:52 PMthis tribe is definitely non-mainstream..and so is tons of tribes here.
but the place i live is still like that. but yeah, right now, it doesn't really bother me because through the gift of the internet, i have understood that there are others like me out there.
it saddens me though that they live in other countries because i can truly connect with someone only when meaningful passions are shared. otherwise, it seems superficial to me, because the conversation ends up in mindless chatter, which i'll definitely not wish to entertain.
i owe the internet a lot, much more than i'd care to think at times heh. -
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Re: Advice you'd give to your younger self
Wed, September 5, 2007 - 5:28 PMI'd tell myself that it is okay to be smart, ask too many questions, spend lots of time thinking about endless things...
That I can be true to myself and still enjoy good friendships...
Trust should be earned, not freely given, love is the reverse...
I would tell myself that reading about a place is not the same as visiting it...
That life is a participation sport...
That failures are only opportunities to learn something new...
And that playing it safe leads to missing out on too much...
I would tell me not to be too critical...
That change happens even when it seems imperceptible...
And embracing the unknowns and undiscovered does not negate the joy I still get from research and planning...
And mostly... I would tell myself that seeking out love from others does not exclude the importance of my greatest need; loving myself...
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Re: Advice you'd give to your younger self
Wed, September 5, 2007 - 11:05 PMI've thought about this subject alot and at first my answer was to give myself general advice like stop worrying too much and enjoy life more. Or stop overthinking situations. The problem is that my younger self would reply: And how do suppose I go about doing that.
Because stop worrying and enjoy life is a skill, which I didn't learn until my 30s and I had to go through alot of crap in my 20s gain the experience I needed to enjoy life more.
I guess to clarify the question:
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Re: Advice you'd give to your younger self
Thu, September 6, 2007 - 6:34 AMwell..that is a skill I have also learned in my thirties..
Not sure which ones I had in my twenties...
I guess I would say.. save your money in various accounts(money market,IIRA, CD,.ect. not just savings) ..dont limit yourself.... and stop giving it away......
I wasnt sure about options or investments then...I always had plenty of money with no where to put it and loan out(gave) plenty too(never got it back)
..use your compassion for more than just one person....it can be put to good use....
I had so much of it that it could have help people in many different ways...( I smothered my boyfriends instead...very bad)
Am I getting closer..hope so.
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Re: Advice you'd give to your younger self
Mon, September 10, 2007 - 8:59 AMManage money more carefully.
Be less critical, which would have saved many relationships.
Take better care of yourself, which is the only piece of advice not borrowed from other answers.
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Re: Advice you'd give to your younger self
Sun, April 6, 2008 - 10:25 PMLike someone else has said, I'm not sure I'd change anything, because I really love my life now and I"m having more fun now than ever (yes, im my 30's...another theme here) and everything leading up to this point needed to happen for me to be here. But since we're living in fantasy land, there were definitely some things that could have made life more pleasurable up to this point.
25--Don't worry about buying that house. It's the right thing to do.
24--yes, working here really is shitty. Get a different job for God's sakes! Life's too short to deal with this bullshit. Be self expressed!
23--Dating him seems like a bad idea because it IS a bad idea. Save yourself years of bullshit now!!
20--He's not the one for you. Let it go and look around you...there's a ton of awesome people all around you!
18--Take the Landmark Forum and realize that life is what you make it mean. Make awesome meanings in your life starting now.
12--You will NEVER be one of the popular kids. That's a good thing. Keep being you and the right people will come into your life.
9--Don't ever EVER stop being self expressed.
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Re: Advice you'd give to your younger self
Mon, December 3, 2007 - 6:49 PM14 - Go to the arts highschool instead of the science highschool.
16 - Don't beat yourself up over your lack of discipline. Explore your passions instead.
18 - Change Bays. Your roommate is a transparent extraverted narcissist and your Bay-mates, while well intentioned are equally extraverted. Don't worry about hurting them, they'll get over it. This is a great time to meet new people, but only if they're people you're going to want around in the future.
19 - You will never be 'cool', not even in the ironic geeky sense. Let it go. Seriously, you'll feel much better about everything.
20 - Shouldn't you be writing an essay right now?
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backwards..........
Wed, December 5, 2007 - 7:21 AM3 months ago - quit freaking out, you know what's up (extra-intuition) just let it ride... go to the rec center instead of the bar.
5 months ago - don't leave the cds at her house :)
1 year and a few months ago - apply to more grad schools
2 years ago - do the b@ll$h!t paperwork to get promoted, for the money
5 years ago - don't enlist in the Marine Corps, join the Army as an officer
7 years ago - start biking now
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general advice to self and selves like us:
we can change it all. make every day a crusade/jihad/holy war towards your ends. -
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Re: backwards..........
Sat, December 8, 2007 - 1:15 AMI am the sum of my life and choices...I have to say I don't want to give my (younger) self advice. The person I am now has evolutionised from the good and bad (and the silly!) over the years.
I do have two things however:
*I will be gentle with myself*
*I will be tender with my heart.*
They are not my words (just my thoughts :) ) I have wandered cyberspace at times and come across them-not sure whom to attribute them to).
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Thu, December 27, 2007 - 9:35 AM6 years old-- You're not weird, or well, you are but for a good reason. You have ADD; you have a disorder, not a flaw...stop pulling your eyelashes out. It's not your fault.
15-- Know that Matt will never ask you out. Don't be afraid to tell him how you feel. If you get rejected, it might save you 10 years of longing for him. Also, the way you imagine him is not who he really is.
16-- Start reading anything about ADD. Find a way to get tested and get therapy. It will save you a lot of grief for the rest of high school and college.
18-- Don't expect college to solve all your problems. You are not going to change into the person you wish to be. You will always be you, so get comfortable with that and grow from there.
19-- Don't give up hope of happiness. Stay dedicated to living out of your imagination, but put more action than thinking to your goals. You will think yourself right out of lots of opportunities otherwise, and you will give up. Don't be afraid to ask for help.
21-- Try to major in Fish and Wildlife for awhile before committing to English. Plan your study abroad trip now, don't wait for the last year of school. Please go to Spain in the Spring and not in the Fall.
22- No this won't be the year you get a boyfriend, but he's coming.
23-- Work closely with Dr. Morgan and get him to find you a job.
24-- Start looking to move to Kansas City or you'll wind up in a stressful long-distance relationship. Be more up front with John about how his personality grates on you. Don't be afraid to ask for a break. Marriage is the only thing he has on his mind, so beware.
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Re: Advice you'd give to your younger self
Sat, February 2, 2008 - 11:56 AMdon't be nice....stomp the shit out of everything and everybody to get what you want
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Re: Advice you'd give to your younger self
Mon, February 4, 2008 - 8:31 AM14 You're good enough to do whatever you put your mind to if you can get off your lazy ass
16 It turns out being gay is actually fabulous. Don't sweat it.
18 Start working out. It makes you feel good.
21 Don't kinda blow of college just becuase it's gotten boring.
22 Never forget your friends. They care about you.
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Re: Advice you'd give to your younger self
Mon, April 7, 2008 - 4:46 AMdont marry bipolar canadian women .
dont ever start drinking alcohol .
dont hook up with selfish saggittarian women from Virginia .
dont get wrapped up in satanic plastic southern california culture .
start practicing yoga now .
spend more time outside than inside .
eat a high protein diet .
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Re: Advice you'd give to your younger self
Thu, April 10, 2008 - 6:19 PMKeep in touch with friends who are kindred spirits. I've let too many good friends disappear into oblivion because we were on different life paths. Sadly some of them have passed on.
Follow my dreams and don't get distracted by money.
Don't let tribal beliefs control me. (Nani in her book Diary of a Medical Intuitive talks about tribal beliefs.)
Quit the lousy jobs (and relationships) I have had as soon as I had any suspicion that they weren't going to work, and don't rationalize my reasons for staying (job--I need the money; relationship--I'm not a quitter, etc.)
Moved to California much much sooner--like in my 20s.
Always, always listen to my inner guide and my heart and never let anyone tell me that I couldn't live the life I wanted to live.
And "It's never too late..."
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Re: Advice you'd give to your younger self
Sun, November 30, 2008 - 8:03 AMThere is no luxury in self-reproach.
Take your writing more seriously.
From ages(19-27) don't be so bitter and untrusting of the opposite sex.
That hot latin/papi (wanna be fast and the furious street racer) is not worth a couple of
hours in jail.
Pursue things that catch your heart not your eye(s).
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Re: Advice you'd give to your younger self
Mon, December 1, 2008 - 5:27 PMWow this is a great topic!
As a young child I would, tell myself to not worry about people not understanding what you're talking about and not taking you seriously.
As an adolescent I would say, "day dreaming does not mean you are not smart" Umm, 16 to 19, I would say "please stand up for yourself...and open your mouth, no one knows you or your idea's." my twenties, were really hard, I would hug myself and say, little lady, you're sweet and have a lot to give, give it and don't take critics so seriously!" late twenties I would say, " Wake up! Realize you don't want to be a resentful recluse. And after 30, I would say congratulations, you can breath more than ever, and keep sharing and giving good things to others, even though you know you may sound like a goofy, hippy chick, who wears her heart on her sleeve.
Ooo that was fun.
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Re: Advice you'd give to your younger self
Fri, December 5, 2008 - 2:08 AMGreat question! Currently 42. Lost a lot of time, energy and money to depression and anxiety over the last 25 years. Made wonderful changes over the last few years, thanks to a good counsellor and an unquenchable determination to discover the essential truth about myself.
If I met myself at 17, the first thing I'd do is give Me-17 a great big hug. I'd then talk to him about the paramount importance of counselling and working through some of the self-esteem issues that would come to haunt various aspects of my life. There's really nothing else I'd say to him, because he would have got it all right by himself after that.
That begs the question that PJ (and his 'evolutionisation' <g>) raised: do I regret anything? I really want to say "je ne regrette rien", but I don't think that's entirely honest. I mean, I've become the person I am because of my past, and I'm proud of that. But by the same token, I think I could have spared myself a lot of unnecessary pain if I'd found the right mentor back then. -
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Re: Advice you'd give to your younger self
Tue, April 7, 2009 - 10:12 AMI'm only eighteen, so this is a little hard.
I would definitely go back and practice my ass off on every instrument I could get my hands on. I've always loved music and have played piano and guitar for years as a hobby, but I recently got serious and wish now that I had practiced a lot more when I was younger.
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Re: Advice you'd give to your younger self
Sun, January 3, 2010 - 2:33 AMNEVER... EVER stray from the list of suggested careers for INFPs.
